Oh and of course, if you are willing to write a big enough check, amazing the Church will grant you an annulment and then you are all in good standing again... Joke.
My grandparents were married to each other for decades, had and raised 4 children... divorced, remarried each other again a few years later... were married for another decade or so, divorced each other again....
Yet in spite of all of that, my Grandfather was able to successfully get an annulment from the Church... so he could be back in good standing for little more than opening his checkbook.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I loved my Grandfather, he was one of the finest men I have known in my life, flawed in ways like we all are, but truly a great human being, when he passed last year, the receiving line at his funeral was non stop for over 2 hours... I received condolences from nearly everyone of consequence in his town of note.. I have never seen such a thing in my entire life, the lives he touched in various ways in his journey through this world, and how many of them made a point to come pay their respects...
He was not the mayor, or incredibly wealthy, but he was very active in his community, and touched many many lives.
So I don’t point this out as an attack on my Grandfather, but to point out the silliness of the whole divorced/remarried nonesense that seems to get latched in on when it comes to communion.
I do not know the particulars of your grandparents’ situation, but a couple who are divorced and remarried to each other twice might not have the belief that marriage is a permanent condition. If this was the conclusion of an anullment investigation, then there was a valid reason to find a marriage to be null regardless of its length or resulting children.
More importantly, though, are you saying that civil divorce actually ends a Catholic marriage? Otherwise it seems you think adultery is ‘silly’ and ‘a joke’
Love, O2