Jesus is not to be found in virtually all of protestantism. Women are the primary source of leadership and influence in most churches. Men are castrated. Lesbianism is increasingly influential especially in the United Methodist denomination. Manly Christianity is frowned upon and outright rejected by leadership. Wesley would throw the lot of them out into the cold.
I don’t know what Protestant churches you may have been exposed to but you are very wrong and close to bearing false witness!
Protestantism is having its own schism, with every type splitting in two between the small-o orthodox and the large-P Progressives, who to put it bluntly are large-H Heretics. The orthodox Protestants are just as manly as they have always been, while most of the liberals might as well be worshipping the Goddess.
In my LCMS church the pastor is an ex-Marine who left the Corps to enter the ministry, but who didn't leave his manhood behind, and the pastor in the next town is a retired military chaplain (worked with Bush 41), who would almost certainly be court-martialed today for his tenacious Christianity.