So much of that is doctrinal ... first they have Mortal sin and venal sin ... Big sin and small sin.. if you can go your life (after baptism) without committing a mortal sin.. you are good to go (to purgatory) ...
Now "Mortal sins"..Like intentionally skipping mass to go to a game ...easily cared for with confession and 3 Hail Mary's and 3 Our fathers..
I had a family member that was an ACTIVE RC... She was one of the nicest, most hospitable loving people I have ever known..
But you could not spend 20 minutes in her presence where she did not blaspheme God.... ...I do not even think she was aware of it..
She also had a real "social drinking" issue that ended up being the cause of her death .
Her funeral mass was concelebrated by a bevy of priests .... But it was the message that made me want to cry.. In it the family friend priest told the full church that she was now a saint in heaven and they could pray to her
She, like Mother Teresa.. was judged by men to be a"saint" using mens and Rome's standards , not Gods
Good grief woman, what the hell did you expect the priest to say....she was a sinner and drank too much and was probably in HELL???????????If you believe in OSAS...then she was SAVED and in Heaven.....everyone in Heaven is a Saint.......therefore you can ask her....as a saint....to pray for you.........she is in Heaven and you still have a long way to go.