God’s wrath is toward SIN. Unrepented sin. There are not “OK sins” and “not OK sins”. The same was true in the Old Testament.
There is not one God of the OT and a different one in the New. One God, same attitude towards sin.
Look at John 6. He had little patience for those who were not ever going to repent.
The great need of the modern world is to realize a fundamental truth: God does not love us AS we are. He loves us where we are, but not AS we are. We all must start by repenting - agreeing with Him that we are doing evil and deserve punishment.
God is patient. He doesn’t punish quickly or without ample cause. But modern man seems to think God will not punish us at all. In fact, as CS Lewis pointed out, modern man wants to know if God is good enough to deserve us. We want to judge God. We’re going to be in for a big surprise...
Telling people that God is angry with them does nothing to lead people to Christ.
It most effectively pushes them into a religious system of works in a futile attempt to appease an angry God.
Yes, Jesus had little patience for those who refuse to repent, but the fact that Jesus came here to earth and lived here for thrity three years, and still reached out to those who rejected Him, those we consider were the ones He was angry with, shows the depth of His love and mercy, which far outweighs His anger with them.
He still engaged with them, trying to reach them.
Yes, the modern world does not even seem to be aware of the fact that they are going to be judged some day.