When my husband died, I, too, thought I needed a boyfriend. It only turned into a situation of him using me.
I’m sorry that happened...it is not always easy to discern who the “players” are because they’ve often learned the good guys moves to mask their real intentions.
A friend of mine married a man less then a year after her husband died...she is one who could not see herself functioning alone.....her family and friends tried to tell her he was after her money, which of course proved as much within a few years of their marriage. Divorced now..and he got nothing except the vehicle he brought to the table after cheating on her.
I’m sorry for your loss, and I’m sorry to hear that someone else would step into that situation and be so cruel.
When my husband left, I didn’t even think about the dating world. I was recovering from an illness, and I’m still raising sons. I did pray hard for a friend to talk with, but I was praying for a trustworthy female friend. I was caught by surprise when a male friend began talking with me. Then he asked me out. This guy always came across as so nice, such a gentleman. But eventually he revealed his true intentions. ;-) LOL. He got nowhere with me, but I’ve been kicking myself for putting my guard down in the first place.
God made me a mother; that’s my calling. I’m not sure why I deserve this vocation, but He must know otherwise. He might have other plans for me, too, but I’ll have to wait to find out what they are.