Posted on 10/04/2014 6:19:44 AM PDT by SeekAndFind
I encounter so many struggling pastors. And unfortunately, I know so many who used to be pastors but no longer hold the position.
It may be through a blatant sin or a casual drifting from doing what they knew to be right, but it landed them in disaster. A pastor friend of mine said recently, “We need healthy churches and we need healthy pastors.”
Amen. Agreed. We must stand guard.
What are we guarding against?
No single post would be perfect. Obviously sin, but I can’t address everything that gets in the way of a healthy pastor. I can only list some that are more common in my experience.
Here are 10 dangerous distractions for a pastor:
1. Neglecting your soul. One of my mentors reminded me recently. “Ron, don’t forget to feed your own soul.” It was subtle. Almost given as a sidebar to our discussion. But it was gold. One of the biggest dangers for a pastor is when we begin to operate out of stored up knowledge of and experience with God. We need fresh encounters with truth and His glory.
2. Sacrificing family. Families learn to resent the ministry when it always trumps the family. Ministry families get accustomed to interruptions. They are part of the job as they are part of many vocations. But the family will hopefully be there when no one else is around. Ministry locations change but the family does not—so we must not neglect them. I’ve sat with men who lost the respect of their family. I know countless pastors whose adult children no longer want anything to do with the church. Apparently, there’s not much that hurts any more than that.
3. Playing the numbers game. Whenever we put the emphasis on numbers, we are always disappointed. They will never be high enough. God is in charge of the numbers. We are in charge of what He has put us in charge of—but it’s not the numbers. We must be careful to concentrate on making disciples and the numbers will take care of themselves.
4. Comparing ministries. There will always be a “bigger” ministry. Someone will always write a better tweet—or a better book—or a better blog post—preach a better sermon. When we begin to compare, it distracts us from the ministry we’ve been God-appointed to lead.
5. Finding affirmation among the rebels. This is the one that gets me in trouble among the rebels when I point it out to pastors. But we must be careful not to get distracted by people who would complain regardless of the decision we make. Yes, it stings the way some people talk to a pastor. And it’s certainly not always godly how some people express themselves in the church. But what if Joshua had listened to the naysayers? What if Nehemiah had? What if Moses had given up every time the complainers were louder than the people who were willing to follow? OK, he probably was willing to give up a couple of times, but he held the course. If you are leading, there will always be someone that is not happy with the decisions you made. People bent on pleasing others—more even than pleasing God—have a very hard time finding peace and joy in ministry.
6. Sacrificing truth for popularity. It’s easy to preach the easy stuff. Grace messages are pleasant to share and popular to receive. And we need them. Where sin increases—grace should increase all the more. But we need truth. Even when it is unpopular. Making disciples becomes impossible when we sacrifice either one—truth or grace.
7. Stealing glory. My mama used to say “that boy got too big for his britches.” Sadly that can happen in ministry also. Many pastors struggle with ego problems. God is never honored in that. Pastors are in a God-glorifying position. Actually, everyone is, but it is written into our job description.
8. Poor boundaries. In an effort to “minister” to people, I know too many pastors who fell into a trap because they didn’t have proper boundaries in place. The enemy enjoys a door of opportunity.
9. Neglecting friendships. Most pastors struggle knowing who to trust, but because of that they have few people really get to know them. Therefore, they often have no one who can speak into the dark places of their life. And pastors have them too. So they put on a good front—but inside, they struggle alone. It’s dangerous.
10. Abusing power. The pastor holds a certain amount of power just because of position. It has been said, “Unlimited power is apt to corrupt the minds of those who possess it.” One of the more dangerous things I see churches doing these days is giving a pastor too much power, without enough built-in personal accountability. (That’s coming from a church planter’s heart—and one who is prone to lead strong.) By the way, I’m not for controlling the pastor or forced relational accountability—and I haven’t discovered the perfect system here—but there needs to be one that balances truth and grace equally. Again, I don’t know how to systematize that, but it is a dangerous distraction. My challenge would be to the pastor or ministry leader to build this system into his or her own life absent a system within the ministry.
Those are some that I have seen. These distractions are displayed in a number of ways—and all of them are not fatal, thankfully—but all of them are real. And all of them are dangerous.
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Ron Edmondson is a pastor and church leader passionate about planting churches, helping established churches thrive, and assisting pastors and those in ministry think through leadership, strategy and life. Ron has over 20 years business experience, mostly as a self-employed business owner, and he's been helping church grow vocationally for over 10 years.
Wise advice.
For that matter, it could apply to anyone.
If the body of Christ was as spiritually healthy as it has the potential to be, pastors would not be *overworked*.
We need to get out of the mentality that ministering to others is a paid position and the rest of us are exempt from the job.
We ALL have the ministry of reconciliation and are all responsible to encourage and pray for each other and help whatever needs we see others having.
I knew a guy who’s father had been a pastor and quit because he said “There’s no money in it.” He eventually ended up in prison for scamming a bunch of farmers.
Unfortunately, too many preachers are in it for the money. I especially like the man’s point about “truth”. I got a flier in the mail the other day from a church inviting me to a “contemporary” service. In very small letters it said it was a Baptist church.
Amen!
good list
I am so sick of these parishioners, sending their kids to expensive Christian school and then doing drugs, doing adultery, sleazy business practices. What gives?
Far too many head pastors plant a church and then install "yes-men" as elders. By-laws and Elders must be employed judiciously to keep God, not man, in charge. Even Paul sought the blessing of the church leaders.
I know that in many cases, the kid was in the public school and having the same problems and either the public school either kicked him out or the parents thought that sending them to a Christians school would keep the kids away from the drugs and straighten the kids out.
Problem is, the problems begin at home.
Thank you God for giving me the priest I needed who doesn’t succumb to any of these temptations.
——Thank you God for giving me the priest I needed who doesn’t succumb to any of these temptations.-——
Are you married to him..? (I know it’s a silly question) then you have no real idea what’s in his heart....
If he is a man... He certainly has dealt with these temptations....maybe even is guilty to a degree of some of them...
We all do....it’s in our sin nature....
“Thank you God for giving me the priest I needed who doesn’t succumb to any of these temptations.”
Funny. You really think you know what goes on in his head, heart, and home every minute of the day?
When a person is holy, one knows it.
“When a person is holy, one knows it.”
Most people would’ve said the exact same thing of my dad, a pastor for over 60 years. And they did say that. He put on an excellent show for parishoners and the community, but was an absolute beast behind closed doors. Been there. Lived it. Just sayin’.
——When a person is holy, one knows it.——
You must have a different definition for being “holy” because outward appearances are deceiving...
We are all sinners, pope, priests, pastors, ministers, lay people, parishioners....all easily tempted and corrupted...
In the sight of God we are made holy by the blood of Christ....
Any other holiness is a false one....
Trying to do TOO much...
Even talking donkeys can instruct a person...
Sal,
While I love my Minister as well he is still human and thus fallen flesh(Gen 8:21, Ecc 7:20, and Rom 3:23). We are Holy and Righteous through the blood of Jesus Christ, but not for our own actions (Rom 3:23). For you to even think for a second that he hasn’t committed any of those offenses simply shows your spiritual immaturity.
1 Corinthians 3:2 New International Version (NIV)
2 I gave you milk, not solid food, for you were not yet ready for it. Indeed, you are still not ready.
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