But I wonder about this part: "He minced instead of walking, wore long scarves, had a dog that he was inordinately fond of" etc. Scarves, pets, and a less-than-virile stride do not constitute problematic homosexual behaviors.
If he crossed physical or emotional boundaries with boys, that's a different story enrtirely: he should not be buddying-up to them, taking them on long rides in his car or overnights, doing PDA's ("here's a big hug!"), forming inappropriate out-of-school friendships, contacting them via Facebok or Twitter, texting, etc.
I think part of the problem is that we have a hard time defining what is a red flag (or should I say "rainbow flag")--- like being Father Huggy Bear with boys OR girls --- and what is not.
Men that seem a little effeminate to you ("long scarf", sashaying walk) might be more emotionally sound, more chaste and more holy than some Father Macho who has God-knows-what extracurricular activities on the side.
Chickensoup, I absolutely agree that a man with obvious, ongoing homosexual tendencies should not be a seminarian or a priest or (as you mentioned) principal of a school!
But I wonder about this part: “He minced instead of walking, wore long scarves, had a dog that he was inordinately fond of” etc. Scarves, pets, and a less-than-virile stride do not constitute problematic homosexual behaviors.
If he crossed physical or emotional boundaries with boys, that’s a different story enrtirely: he should not be buddying-up to them, taking them on long rides in his car or overnights, doing PDA’s (”here’s a big hug!”), forming inappropriate out-of-school friendships, contacting them via Facebok or Twitter, texting, etc.
I think part of the problem is that we have a hard time defining what is a red flag (or should I say “rainbow flag”)-— like being Father Huggy Bear with boys OR girls -— and what is not.
Men that seem a little effeminate to you (”long scarf”, sashaying walk) might be more emotionally sound, more chaste and more holy than some Father Macho who has God-knows-what extracurricular activities on the side.
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He was effeminate and used scarves as items to fling, wore his hair long and looked like he was partially cross-dressing. He was the laughing stock of the teens except among certain disaffected young men that he empowered.