I am not beating up on them. I spent decades of involvement with 12 step programs.
I am just telling my story and my experience.
Really, what I found is the spiritual awakening that is talked about in the 12 steps, but that so few people in AA and NA ever really find.
One thing I did not have to learn from 1the 12 steps is
Beware of Gurus.
That I learned through hard life experience. And I can smell them a mile away.
Fare thee well.
I have come to realize that addictions are a symptom of something else, usually childhood abuse or neglect from the mild to the severe.