I've been on way to many Christian forums to believe that hooey. Many times obnoxiousness is positively correlated with one's perceived relationship with the Lord. I'd much rather debate someone who's smarter than thou than someone who's holier than thou.
Alamo-Girl is smarter than most hereon but will never write in such a tone. She virtually never to never defends herself.
She never writes in a holier-than-thou tone or attitude because she never feels that way.
Welllll, never that anyone beyond her hubby would know.
Any perceptions otherwise are some sort of problem in the eye of the beholder.
This psychologist may be a bit biased but I’ve known her for many years and have found the above to be always true about her.