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Just Found Out......I Lost a Good Friend
self | 2/8/03 | RightOnline

Posted on 02/08/2003 6:44:07 PM PST by RightOnline

I received an email early this morning from a stranger.........a stranger who sought me out to tell me that an old high school buddy had died, quite suddenly, of a heart attack.

No, he wasn't famous. His name was Bruce Parker. We went to high school together in the early '70's in Huntsville, Alabama. Being close to the Tennessee border, a few of us would often get together and drive across the border to some little bar or liquor store (the drinking age was 18 in Tennessee in those days; you know, before Uncle Sugar blackmailed everyone into raising it to 21) that had a rather lax view of "ID verification". Bruce was handy to have along because he was a lot of fun, but also looked 30 when he was 17.

He once had a letter sent home to his parents explaining how he had no aptitude whatsoever in math. To this day, I'm not sure if whoever wrote that letter was trying to suggest that he pursue a career in one of your better bowling alleys, but the letter was sent, nonetheless.

We had our respective tempestuous relationships with pretty blonde girlfriends. We wondered if the Vietnam War would be over when we graduated in '73. We were hooked on Monty Python and loved a good cigar.......smoked in the privacy of some of the surrounding woodlands with other buddies, maybe with some Bacardi to wash down the smoke.

After graduation, I left for the Air Force Academy; Bruce decided to stay in Huntsville and attend the University of Alabama, Huntsville (UAH). Somehow, and I've forgotten the details, Bruce wound up working in some physics lab.

Well, who'd have guessed........except those of us who knew just how damned smart Bruce really was; he got hooked on physics, got into lasers, built one particular laser that was the largest of its kind that was actually made to "lase", built quite a name for himself, and spent the next 25+ years as a physicist and businessman in the defense community. He was heavily involved in "Star Wars" efforts. He was unable to tell me, close as we were, what he was specifically working on, but he was always, always calm and reassuring about the strength and security of our country. I remember, especially during my Air Force pilot days, just how reassuring talks with Bruce would be.

Bruce had gone through a horrible experience in his first marriage (with that pretty blonde girlfriend from high school), but eventually struck gold by marrying the sweetest, most charming little redhead you ever would meet. They had some great kids........and as his income rose significantly due to his now-executive level position at what he described as "a God-less defense contractor", built a big, beautiful house atop Monte Sano on the outskirts of the Huntsville city limits. I remember sitting on the expansive back deck, a wall of windows behind us, a 35+ mile view.....heartstoppingly beautiful.....in front of us; sipping Crown Royal and bitching about how hard we worked, what we'd do with our lives next, and how incredibly lucky we were to have the women that we had.

Bruce was a curmudgeon's curmudgeon. A large man, most were intimidated by him. He was the bane of doctors. He would tell a doctor who would dare to tell him to stop drinking scotch (no, he wasn't an alcoholic; he just loved scotch) to pound sand in no uncertain terms. Crusty guy........but ungodly funny if you knew him. Bruce could make me laugh like few others, and I'm one of the few with whom he withheld the cranky-old-fart act.

He was a terrific father, a wonderful husband and provider, and a brilliant physicist. He contributed more to the defense of this country than most will ever know.

What I do know is that Bruce suddenly, at the age of only 47 years, had a heart attack in his kitchen on Thursday evening and died instantly.

I'll miss him.


TOPICS: Miscellaneous
KEYWORDS: bruce; friend; helluvaguy; huntsville; parker; physicist; starwars
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1 posted on 02/08/2003 6:44:08 PM PST by RightOnline
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To: RightOnline
Wow, I'm sorry.

The best thing to remember is the guy had a helluva life and seemed from what you said to have left a great legacy.
2 posted on 02/08/2003 6:47:53 PM PST by Bogey78O (It's not a Zero it's an "O")
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To: RightOnline
Sounds like a great guy. Prayer for his family. Sorry about the loss of a friend as such an early age.
3 posted on 02/08/2003 6:48:12 PM PST by Larry Lucido
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To: RightOnline
My condolences on the loss of your friend.
4 posted on 02/08/2003 6:48:30 PM PST by slimer
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To: RightOnline
I'm sorry for your loss. And it sounds like our country has also suffered a loss as well.
5 posted on 02/08/2003 6:49:52 PM PST by SwatTeam
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To: RightOnline
My sympathies. Reading the morning paper Friday I learned that a good friend (69 years old) had passed away. Turns out there was a message on our malfunctioning RadioTrash answering machine we had not detected -- memorial service is tomorrow. It's rough, losing friends. I've lost quite a number in the past year.
6 posted on 02/08/2003 6:51:51 PM PST by Eala
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To: RightOnline
Sorry for your loss.

RIP Bruce Parker.

7 posted on 02/08/2003 6:52:45 PM PST by isthisnickcool
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This is for you, Bruce. Hoisting one for you now, you old s.o.b. Hope the Good Lord appreciates Monty Python......
8 posted on 02/08/2003 6:54:26 PM PST by RightOnline
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To: RightOnline; Howlin; Constitution Day; mykids'mom
Please extend our sympathy to his beautiful wife and kids. May the Lord give comfort to his family and friends!
9 posted on 02/08/2003 6:54:31 PM PST by kayak (God bless President Bush, God bless our military, and God bless America!)
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To: RightOnline
I'm a '73 grad as well. God-speed to your friend. Condolences to his family and to you. He sounds like he was a great guy and an inspiration.
10 posted on 02/08/2003 6:54:56 PM PST by sneakers
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To: RightOnline
Sorry about the loss of your friend.

Somehow it seems that the ones that are quiet about what they really do are the ones that do the most.
11 posted on 02/08/2003 6:55:07 PM PST by notpoliticallycorewrecked (Peace through superior firepower)
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To: RightOnline
my prayers are for his family and to you.a good friend is worth more them gold.he lives as long as people remenber him.
12 posted on 02/08/2003 6:55:12 PM PST by Emeraldgold
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To: RightOnline
We're the same age, ROL....I understand how this affects you. It's even harder when you like the guy. Had a similiar experience last year. Stay even keel, my friend.
13 posted on 02/08/2003 6:55:40 PM PST by Focault's Pendulum (Pluck your "Magic Twanger"...Froggy!!!)
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To: RightOnline
I once heard that you know you've reached middle age when you attend more funerals than weddings.

Welcome.

14 posted on 02/08/2003 6:56:58 PM PST by ZOOKER
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To: ZOOKER
I called Bruce's house this evening and found out the funeral is tomorrow......and I'll be unable to attend (I live in NC). That little fact is just killing me, to be honest. He deserves to have his buddies come say good-bye.
15 posted on 02/08/2003 6:59:06 PM PST by RightOnline
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To: sneakers
*lifts a glass of Scotch....*

For Bruce, may he rest in the arms of the Lord tonight, and peace be with his families.
16 posted on 02/08/2003 6:59:41 PM PST by Blue Scourge (Real American...)
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To: RightOnline
Bruce was a curmudgeon's curmudgeon.

A Curmudgeons prayer for your friend.

17 posted on 02/08/2003 6:59:54 PM PST by HoustonCurmudgeon (Compassionate Conservative Curmudgeon)
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To: RightOnline
What I do know is that Bruce suddenly, at the age of only 47 years, had a heart attack in his kitchen on Thursday evening and died instantly.

My condolences. My sister died the same way, at the same age (47), leaving behind 4 daughters (one still in elem. school) and several grandkids. It's always hard for us to understand sudden, untimely death. We learn to live with missing them daily and try to make our own lives better. Wishing your good memories will soon take over the sad part.

18 posted on 02/08/2003 7:03:04 PM PST by aeronca
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To: RightOnline
Sorry to hear about that. I lived for a while in my youth on the road leading to Monte Sano. What a great place to live, glad he had those years, even though short.
19 posted on 02/08/2003 7:04:07 PM PST by Jael
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To: RightOnline
I doubt anyone could have written a better euology to a friend.

My prayers are with you and Bruce's family in this time of sorrow.

20 posted on 02/08/2003 7:05:00 PM PST by Johnny Gage (God Bless our Military, God Bless President George W. Bush and God Bless America!)
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