This whole incident should not even be an open discussion, should not have ever made the news. But it did because a Captain lost his shit, showed no faith in his crews ability to handle the situation, and a message he never should have even considered writing, was blasted all over the media by stupidity or design. Concerned for his crews safety??!! This is the type of asshat that would have abandoned ship during the Forrestal fire. No excuses here people. He broke the golden rules of Command. What SecNav did may not be politically correct or the proper way to handle the Scenario, but believe you me, the entire upper Chain of Command, and probably 90% of the retired community is incensed by the actions of both Capt and Crew. This incident is far from over, and every one needs to be very concerned about the state of readiness and MINDSET of the Modern Navy.
There is only one real golden rule that I know of - Halsey's advice to Spruance - when in command, command. You draw on all of your resources, including your best people to deal as best you can with the situation at hand. Crozier didn't. He whined.