Thank you for your post. All I know about Purim is what someone like Rabbi Strassfeld has written. He writes like an Orthodox most of the time, but not when it comes to Purim I gather. It makes sense that not everyone would be as drunk as you described.
I just came home from a wonderful Purim holiday meal at a friend's house. Her 10 kids (all but 2 married with their own kids), plus various grandparents, cousins, etc. came as well. There were 2 long tables and no vacancies at either! Nearly everyone was wearing a costume, including me. Instead of drunken mumbling, we were listening to Torah discourses, jokes, friendly banter, etc. Sure, some of the younger guys were a bit buzzed on wine, but that's part of Purim. You would never see them slovenly drunk or puking. And you would never see them even slightly buzzed on any day of the year except on Purim. They were getting funny, one had to smile. These guys were nearly all young fathers; one changed his baby daughter's dirty diaper so his wife could continue to sit--a real drunkard jerk, right? Most were holding their latest babies, playing with them and kissing them. Again, just a bunch of bums, right? A lot of them were still in college, majoring in dentistry, accounting, computer science, etc. Such lowlifes, drunks all, for sure!
This so-called "rabbi" is married to a female "rabbi". There is no such thing as a female rabbi in authentic Torah Judaism, so if this guy is married to someone calling herself a rabbi, you know he is not a religious Jew and therefore has a tremendous chutzpah writing anything as some kind of authority on Judaism.
Just sayin'.