I agree. I believe love is a decision and an action.
That being said, my first marriage lated 20 years and my second is just coming up on 20 years. They are night and day. My first wife had some very positive qualities, but she became utterly narcissistic over the years. I started out as the most narcissistic of the two, but the roles seemed to reverse at some time in our marriage.
And if we were living a hundred years ago, we’d still be married and I’d have tamed the shrew. But the government does not allow you to take matters into your own hands nowadays, and even lets women destroy their marriages and families for whatever reason they make up. It’s called “no-fault divorce”.
Meanwhile, my current wife and I grow closer together every day. I never knew one could be so “in love” with another person and want so hard to please them, and my wife feels the same. It really is a compatibility thing.
Another aspect may be based on something I believe:
If the husband is Christian but the wife is not, you will usually see both of them in church (if they have children). But if the wife is a Christian and the husband is not, it is fairly common to see only the wife in church.
Seeing how things played out after the breakup of my first marriage, I get the feeling she was just “showing up” back then.
“I agree. I believe love is a decision and an action.”
It is entirely controlled by chemical imbalances in the brain. Rationality and will play no role.
Sadly a gift, from that great conservative Ronald Reagan, that keeps on giving.