>>>Am I not a different person than I was at age 25? If I now understand that people can relate in a fun supportive way and I don’t have to be a doormat in a relationship, do I have to stay stuck with my torturer?<<<
Why can’t you be just be you, changes and all, with your spouse? How are you being tortured inside your marriage?
He hated me, I couldn’t boil water right according to him, he had to have someone to blame and it was me, now it’s not.