Bingo. You his the nail on the head. The bridge watch on that destroyer failed to act until they were very close to that container ship. Then they made some very wrong decisions after they realized the seriousness of the situation.
Your post makes me wish that FR had a “Like” button. There’s no way in hell that a competent and attentive bridge watch on the DDG wouldn’t have been able to avoid the collision regardless of any actions by the container ship.