“f the boy were my son I would be a bit perturbed too. ‘
As would I. I started out saying and continue to say I am very sorry for this boy’s death. When we try to impress on a young person the seriousness of something they did, they sometimes freak out. The alternative of acting like it was no big thing is not a good alternative, either.
There is a middle ground and sometimes we miss it. What he did was very, very wrong and needed to be dealt with severely. Not with a death penalty, whether self-imposed or otherwise.
I'm not doing that nor do I see any other posts here that I can reasonably read that into.