The above link is just one of the videos that Mark Gungor does. This one is about how pornography. Where the men turn to porno, and prefers it to a real woman. I can't recall if this is the where he talks about how the man needs to initiniate it more. But he also talks about how after the woman says “I have a headache” three or four times in a row - the guy gives up with the woman.
I hate to admit - I get to that point some time. I give up with my wife sometimes. It is easier just not to try anymore.
I can honestly say that I am to the point that if a group of 10's were to parade naked across a stage, I'd have a similar reaction as watching lifestyles of the rich and famous-- "That's very nice, but not something I can have."
OTOH, if my wife touches me in a certain way, looks at me in a certain way or even makes a few select comments, the old flagpole goes up! It doesn't always end with completing the act, but it does ALMOST often enough.
The biggest problem in porn for men, as Gungor points out, is unrealistic expectations. All of the guys have a couple of extra inches (or more) on their copulatory organ, all of the women have a couple extra sizes on their boobs, pubic hair is scarce or even shaved, etc.
Don't know about others, but the pubic hair actually enhances our lovemaking, it doesn't interfere with it. Fact: hair has nerve endings which trigger pleasure points in the brain and glands when ground together.
Don't know about his other videos, but there is a counterpart problem in porn for women a/k/a "romance novels." Men are more visual creatures. Women thrive on feelings and descriptions. These romance novels give women unrealistic expectations in much the same way that porn does the same for men.
Pastor Gungor's BEST line, however, is questioning why we look to the entertainment industry for sex tips when most of them can't even stay married three months.
Another fact: Guys which are getting it regularly even care to look at porn.