From the story, here are the six principles of being a “Surrendered Wife”:
1. Relinquishes inappropriate control of her husband
2. Respects her husband’s thinking
3. Receives his gifts graciously and expresses gratitude for him
4. Expresses what she wants without trying to control him
5. Relies on him to handle household finances
6. Focuses on her own self-care and fulfillment
1-4 seem reasonable to me. With respect to 5, I think the household finances should be handled together or by whichever partner has more of an aptitude for it. I’m not quite sure what 6 means.
I don’t care for the term “surrendered wife,” but the thrust of these principles seems to me to be “don’t be a control freak and treat your husband like an adult who has a brain.”
I have never been married, but I see a lot of guys who put up with some really controlling behavior from their wives. I wouldn’t tolerate that kind of crap from any man, nor would I respect a man would tolerate from me. I also would not treat any man I loved that way.
Gifts?
Married women get gifts?
I have no problem with any of them except for #5.
I cannot imagine why men should handle finances.
My husband did it because I didn’t want to and he was good at it,but in many cases the situation is reversed.My father-in-law had my mother-in-law do everything——he just had some pocket cash (This was pre credit cards)
Rule #5 makes no sense.
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Wow! I dig this; always have. And I am very happily married to the love of my life.
It usually doesn’t start until married. Then the guys that have this kind of a wife need to deal with both them and the family court system which is rigged.
If the system wasn’t rigged most guys wouldn’t put up with it.
Incentive to marry is way down among a lot of males due to govt intervention.
nor would I respect a man would tolerate from me. I also would not treat any man I loved that way.
Bingo. No one does.