I disagree that avoiding relationships so you can “find yourself” is a model that should be elevated in society. The whole problem with western countries is that people are delaying childbirth until later and later, often to the point where they need fertility treatments to make it happen. This is a model that causes a society to die out and crater economically.
While not every person is suited to become a spouse and/or parent, the model for a healthy society is for most people to marry and have children. The idea that people need a decade after college to be “established” enough to start a family is less than convincing. And if it takes someone that long to find a “suitable” spouse, they’re probably being overly picky to the point of being a dysfunctional neurotic.
The idea that having a partner is somehow some kind of albatross around your neck that holds you back sounds indistinguishable from feminazi “fish without a bicycle” claptrap. A partner is there to support and uplift you. It’s not hard to find examples of those relationships out there. The idea that we avoid all relationships because some can be dysfunctional is not taking a job because some jobs are bad or not seeing a movie because some movies are bad.
So the idea that we would celebrate avoiding relationships doesn’t sell to me. I can envision an elderly person who stayed single and never had children being much more likely to regret it than a person who got married and had children.
Don’t get Me started, mate. This person is just frosting My bacon like you would not believe.
More, that it would deserve a thread of its own on FReeRepublic is just galling beyond belief.
If this person needs to not only “live the dream” but broadcast it here is so self-centered that it beggars belief about what most normal people believe, and I refuse to allow such self-justifying mental masturbation to stand without refutation.
I think this person needs to become bed-bunkies with Lorriannne and his pals and start their own website rather than drone on about how proud they are about not enguaging in sexual activities.
Your post makes good points certainly. I do not wish my praise for her to be taken as an endorsement of the “single vocation”.
Indeed God calls us to one of two vocations, either a life of consecration to Him, or the vocation of Marriage. When I praised CorprateStepsister, I was assuming there was some kind of dedication of her chastity to God in there. And indeed chastity is to be commended regardless, even for one seeking a spouse but still single. So that was the main point of my previous post on this thread. To praise her dedication to be chaste in today’s sex-obsessed “culture”. And I still praise her for that (and thank her for sharing this so publicly despite some criticism she’s received for it, testimonies like this are needed, sad but true).
But your post is important too and should be considered. There is no calling to be “single”, we are called to serve Him, either through marriage or consecration. Everything else is still submission to secularism and the culture of death. So I echo and also endorse any sentiment that hopefully encourages an active search for a spouse or serious and public comittment to consecration to Him.