(At 50+ no one can control what he does.)
You can not rehab someone who doesn’t want to stop, that’s where counseling come into play. That counseling can only come from someone who’s been there.
Old story about addiction.
Man falls into a hole and starts yelling for help.
Preacher comes to the edge and says I’ll pray for you.
Rich man comes to the edge and threw 200 dollars to him.
A Grocer comes to the edge and threw him some bread and water.
A recovered addict comes to the edge and jumps in the hole with him.
The man tells the addict he must be crazy since they were now both in the hole.
The addicts says “Don’t worry I’ve been here before and know the way out”.
And nothing can be done when counseling is refused as well as meds for booze induced health conditions. Some people just never grow up and become responsible adults. He is one of them, never was forced to. It is more than a dependency on booze, but also a dependency on some one else to take care of him like our mother did until she died.
She did him no favors in letting him be a baby all his life and solving all his problems for him. While we girls grew up and became responsible adults with families of our own, and made sure they became responsible adults. My 15 yr old grandson has more sense and responsibility than a 50+ year old baby who calls himself a man.
You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make them drink it as the old saying goes. You can only minimize the damage they do as best you can. My middle sis has more patience that I do. I’d not tolerate it at all. My boys thought I was mean when I made them mind and grow up and learn to take care of themselves. Tough, they now appreciate I turned them into responsible adults who can do so.