It’s the old “love the sinner, hate the sin” thing. It’s difficult to do when the sinner insists there is nothing wrong with his sin.
The heart of the issue is rebellion towards God and those whose hearts are so hardened that they can’t see that are going to require a long, patient conversation before they see any results, if at all.
I have a brother who has accepted Christ then became a homosexual, now experiences depression and feels clearly rejected by the religious side of our family even though we have done nothing to reject him - only his lifestyle and generally we don’t even discuss it around him because we want him to feel like family.
My sister had a friend by the name of Laura who took her little dog Henry with her everywhere she went, even when she’d come to our home. We pointed out to Laura that she was welcome but Henry was not (some family members have allergies to pet dander). Laura was offended and refused to accept that Henry was not welcome in our house.
That’s the way I believe some gays are. Their Henry is their gay identity and they refuse to accept that they can be welcomed in our homes if they’ll just leave Henry behind. They refuse to do it. They feel mortally offended that you would even ask them to do it.
But God does not change for man. He’ll love you and try to lead you but if you will not leave your Henry behind, you’ll ultimately end up despising God because He wants you to repent the sin in your life, not demand that God accept it.
I’ve told defenders of gays that their problem is not with me. Their problem is with the God that demands repentance. It’s that issue they have to deal with before progress is made.
Good post.