I understand. In our own family, one in-law who wears the
britches, made a deal with her Republican husband. In 2008,
she decreed that she & pussywhupped hubby would neither one
vote because she wanted to vote for Obama & didn’t want him
to vote Republican. So. OK. - My husband is absolutely
mesmerized with her (he would NOT put up with her for a
minute if he had her!) He wants to leave our entire bit of
property to his brother’s kids & grandkids. (I think it is
absolute folly because he doesn’t know in the least what
those girls will grow up to be; but he ascribes all sorts of
“failure” to our son, who, incidentally, deports himself
pretty well and has a decent job but has never been able to
“measure up” to his daddy’s expectations. Of late, I have
JUST SIMPLY QUIT! I’m exhausted fighting it. I’ve worked
hard for what we have just as much as he has; but he has
this *magical thinking illness* when it comes to his brother
and his kids & grandkids. - The BIL lies and manipulates
my husband. I realize the SIL can’t help being a German;
but I grew up with my father being shell shocked all to
heck from combat in WWII. It’s a thing of either having her
be at my throat or at my feet; neither of which I care for
her doing to me! I spent this Christmas & New Year down
there with their kids; it was OK, but I have told my
husband I WILL NOT go down there EVERY future holiday. He
can. I’m not!
He wants to leave our entire bit of
property to his brother’s kids & grandkids
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Is your property held jointly? He cannot will what’s not solely his.
My wife’s sister is dying as I type, not expected to live the next 24 hours. She has made some promises or maybe I should say pledges, that she cannot keep to kids and g/kids. It’s going to make it hard on her husband when she’s gone.