The point I was trying to make but didn’t do it very well is, if you out live him, you pretty much hold the reins.
I am SO fed up with this “brother worship” deal with my
husband who really does worship his brother and the SIL
and their kids and grandkids. Point is, WE HAVE A SON who is
BLOOD KIN to my husband and has spent his life TRYING so
hard to please his dad (an impossible task). -
I told husband he has absolutely no way of knowing just
exactly who or WHAT his brother’s granddaughters (4 of them)
will grow up to be. I suspect his brother “works” on him
against me when he has him out to himself. I just wish those
two (SIL & BIL) would simply MOVE on up where their own kids
live. While I appreciate what little they’ve done for me, I
do not consider that it is enough to warrant having to be
forced to leave everything we’ve worked hard for to them.
- I think I elaborated on the fact the SIL is a German &
is either at my throat or at my feet - neither of which I
wish from her. My father was a WWII combat veteran who
fought Hitler in the mud & the grit all through Italy into
Germany. I don’t hate Germans; but I don’t particularly
wish to bequeath what I’ve worked hard for to them.