It was a LONG Time ago, when I was wooing women. But, I recall that it was much like blowing against a wave of water... pushing against a wall of “passive no’s:... Continuing to ask, and ask, and ask.. with tongue and hands... until, you FINALLY get the BIG YES!!!!
The only real NO is getting up and leaving. All are free to do that if it’s really “No”. Everything else is just rationalization, IMO.
Huh? A 110 lb girl has a 230lb guy on her and she just gets up and leaves?
I once had a girl tell me "Stop!" after 1 1/2 strokes.
I did. It wasn't easy. But, I did it.
Still, she didn't leave and call me a rapist. We stayed there, together, and did "other stuff" for an hour or two. We continued dating for another few weeks, before moving apart.
It's not that complicated:
NO, means NO.
Hmnnnn, means GO.