[mjp]

"There's a kind heart in there," he said. "There's a cold heart in there. There's a man who loves. There's a man who cries. There's a lot to the man."

When there is trauma during the early years of a child's development, due to parental failures,the child can have unresolved pain for years that leads to ambivalence toward his caretakers that can later be easily transferred to others in later life. This leads to oscillations between love and hate, dominance and submission, and good and bad behavior toward others.

[T-Bone Texan]

You just convinced me to never spank my kid ever again.

Actually I was on the fence, but your words are a tipping point.