Interesting explanation. I am taken back to a conversation that I overheard a few years ago. I was waiting in line at the New Orleans art museum waiting for the ticket office to open. The woman standing next to me was talking on her cell phone like she was alone.
She was telling someone how sorry she was that she “ chose” the lesbian lifestyle because it had left her lost and alone. She was physically very unattractive, under 5 feet tall and weighing at least 250 pounds. Not a woman that a man would be attracted to now that she was middle aged.
I had never given any thought that “ being gay” was a choice for some.
I notice that when I see women in “that lifestyle” on tv, they are usually overweight, homely and shaped like a pool cue (think Rosie O’Donnell). I think simply that these women had no luck with men so they decide to try something else.
“She was telling someone how sorry she was that she “ chose” the lesbian lifestyle because it had left her lost and alone. She was physically very unattractive, under 5 feet tall and weighing at least 250 pounds. Not a woman that a man would be attracted to now that she was middle aged.”
“I had never given any thought that “ being gay” was a choice for some.”
Actually it is very much a choice. If a woman is dominant masculine, she could also be very comfortable with a feminine man. If a man is feminine, he would be very comfortable with a masculine woman.
Just as a masculine man would not be comfortable with a masculine woman and a feminine woman would not be happy with a feminine man.
While our masculine or feminine persona is not a choice, but is a function of our environment, the gender we choose to be paired with to balance our own spirit and feel whole is a choice.