ONe of my son’s chose a gay life style. I say chose, because it is a choice. The scientific literature based on twins separated supports this. Until some years ago it was determined to be a mental illness with a disease ICD-9 code. Based on world wide research over one hundred years in the making.
My son lived a tortured life, fighting drug and alc addiction as well as “fightin” the compulsion to be with the same sex, going through a couple relationships and eventually “married.” ONe night something happened between them and his partner walked out. He was devastated, and in mental pain. He started drinking again after being sober almost one year. Left alone he took his own life.
I don’t think his story is a unique one. I of course, am going through alot of guilt about this, that may never completely go away.
I don’t think anyone in this country will stand up and debate this issue. REsearch that may help these people at a young age is now not even legal in some states, Chris Christie’s state for one.
For some being gay is a higher form of love making, supposedly harmless, but when marriage sanctifies it, I think we’re in a different playing field. ONe that leads invariably to unhappiness many times death.
I have a libinlaw that was adamant that it wasn’t a choice. I mean vehement and emotional about it.
I kept calmly explaining that there has never been a scientific study that concluded that sexual preference is genetic.
It ended up that I might not have been wrong, but I was certainly “mean”.
I figured it out later - if it’s a choice, there’s a moral component, and therefore judgment of right vs wrong, and THAT’S what she was so emotional about.
I am so sorry for your loss. A child’s mental illness and addiction are devastating hardships to endure. May you find peace and healing.
“I say chose, because it is a choice. The scientific literature based on twins separated supports this.”
More people need to be made aware of this fact. Even the not separated twins studies clearly shows it is a choice probably influenced by environment. The results are obvious to any reasonably intelligent reader.
With all due respect, why would he, or anyone, freely choose a lifestyle that brings so much hellacious misery to them?
I am terribly sorry for your loss.
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Oh, I am so sorry for your loss. What that must be to carry.
Did you ever think that something may have happened to him in his youth to flip that switch in his brain? So many times we hear about some form of sexual “encounter” or abuse that happens early on.
I think the sexualization of our most precious children will eventually be our downfall.