I may find myself in a situation where I have to confront this question.
It is problematic for me, because for the people involved, while I don’t think they would care if I didn’t attend, the issue may be with my wife, who may care if I did or did’t attend because it is her family. If it were my side, I simply wouldn’t go and would explain why to them.
If it comes up, I may put myself in conflict with my spouse, who doesn’t feel the same way about this kind of thing that I do. I have to explore the range of options all the way from not going at all which would be my preference, or going but leaving the “ceremony” and other associated activities until it is time to leave, etc.
I cannot view myself as being part of it, sitting in the same space and countenancing it with my presence, which is what I feel that I would be doing.
I know this is the kind of conflict many of those people want (but not all, which I know for a fact) and that makes me even more angry about the entire thing.
I have long contended that many people including myself don’t care what homosexuals do in their bedroom or personal life as long as they aren’t injuring or impacting others. That is between them and God, to whom they will have to answer. But I have a serious, SERIOUS issue with the forcible attempt to normalize homosexuality and turn it into a civil rights issue and place it on an equal footing with male/female relationships, up to and including family and children.
That makes my blood boil, but sadly, I believe this is a lost issue.
My husband would never expect to violate my conscience like that, nor I, him. Fortunately we are on the same page on this, and would neither attend nor send a gift, nor acknowledge the “union” in any way. Just as “tolerance” turned into forced acceptance, acknowledgement turns into tacit compliance.
Get over it. It’s not a wedding. It’s another instance of perverting the language. Did I say perverting?
Putting lipstick on a pig does not make it beautiful, or kissable.
My son is a sodomite who changes potential, forever after targets, almost as often and he does other stuff.
I love my son, but keep my sanity by staying grounded in reality.
No, I wouldn’t go, no more than I’d hang out at a gay bar.
Rlmorel, since you asked, I’m going to speak frankly, but with all respect to you and your wife.
If you’re having these thoughts/misgivings about attending, I would advise you not to do it. It may be God whispering in your ear. I can tell you from personal experience that sometimes there are spiritual consequences from ignoring what you know you should or should not do when it comes to clear-cut moral issues.
As Christians, we often say that God comes first, followed by family. It’s easy to say, but when it comes right down to it, are we willing to live it?
I don’t think your wife should expect you to do something you believe is wrong. I would never do that to my husband, quite honestly. Maybe it’s time you put your foot down, as spiritual head of the household.