They are trying to defend the indefensible.
The who question is absurd. I don’t give a damned what you do in your bedroom. It’s none of my business. When your sexuality defines who you are, then you have bugger problems.
And that is the issue.
They want their psychosis to be accepted, and then celebrated as normal by those who find their sexual practices revolting and abnormal.
” then you have bugger problems”
Either the cleverest pun ever or a Freudian slip of epic proportions. Either way, well played.