Posted on 03/08/2015 2:57:53 PM PDT by E. Pluribus Unum
We deal with this with our son. To the average eye he needs a good swat. He’s actually high functioning autism with a sensory processing disorder. Spankings and other forms of negative discipline don’t work. Positive reinforcement does. It’s difficult for us sometimes because we know we’re being judged as parents with poor parenting skills. He’s actually much better now that we know what’s going on and have awesome input from his private school. But every now and then there’s a meltdown that can’t be spanked away.
I’ve almost argued on here with a FReeper or two who insisted that, because they couldn’t see a disability, it wasn’t there. Mine is sort of noticeable, since I’m bald and use a cane. I’m so thankful I pass muster with these people!!!
On one hand, someone could say, count your blessings if you are normal looking and have a so called ‘invisible’ disability. On the other hand, everyone’s perception of pain or fear is different. I would not wish Crohn’s disease or that other one I hear about Diverticulitis on anyone.
I’ve met a family where everyone in the last three generations was smart, financially successful, physically very attractive, plus they were very nice (christian) people in general. But Diverticulitis ran rampant in this family among the adult men. The younger ones tended to worry about when it would befall them. Such anxiety tends to make a sensitive stomach system that much worse. They could benefit from genetic research if it has progressed that far yet.
Godspeed.
The sad part is how many use these as a scam...
....Which really hurts those who have real disabilities.
Thanks! We deal with it. Sometimes poorly, but we deal with it! His school is so supportive. The principal told me, when I asked if he could stay in school since it’s private, that Jesus said let the little children come to me. She pointed at a statue of Jesus when she said it, and then asked me why the school would feel differently than God. They are a blessing!
I have a disabled spouse. She hasn’t been able to walk and has needed assistance or a wheelchair for more than 40 years.
I on the other hand have a service related hearing disability which of course you can’t see (unless you notice my hearing aids). I’ve found people treat blind people really well, but they just “hate” people who can’t hear.
I think though, that most of the outrage people have over invisible disabilities revolves around Handicap parking. At least in our state, to qualify for a handicap plates or placard, you must be unable to walk 200 feet with out assistance. I bet 80% of the people with the placards abuse them.
The young woman in this article probably wouldn’t qualify for one...
I walk with a cane. Bad knees.
[ The sad part is how many use these as a scam... ]
Exactly, and those who are scamming basically hurt those who truly suffer by de-legitimatizing them when the scammers are caught.
Look at the service animal “racket” people are claiming their poodles are service animals, which makes someone with a real service animal look less like they actually need it, which they do.
He’s living in an increasingly insane world.
I’ve lost count of how many FReepers have told me that fibromyalgia is just an excuse for being lazy.
For that matter, one of my doctors said that she used to believe that . . . until she developed the disorder herself. She said she also didn’t realize how much pain the human body could truly endure until then.
Mine is more-or-less under control, but I still wouldn’t wish it on anybody.
I am a great lookin dude i would love to be less handsome and not struggle with chrons
Lucky you. Some people really do ‘have it all’, at least for a while.
Indeed. Trying to raise my son to be a man and my daughters to be ladies is getting harder and harder. I work with a woman who insists that the autism can be spanked out of children. I literally have to bite my tongue sometimes in order to keep my mouth shut.
The one I suffer from gets nothing but disgust from many people, I’ve lost a considerable amount of my hearing. If a person is asked to repeat themselves or speak a little louder it ticks them off. Most just say get a hearing aid without even realizing there are different variations of loss and hearing aids don’t solve some. One of the reasons I love computers and forums, I can hear y’all just fine.
I did not realize until they were grown that two of my three children are special needs. When is RAD and the other one is bipolar
Prayers up
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