Stupid is as stupid does. Two incomes rarely are worthwhile with small children. Time spent with children pays off long after everything you ever did at work is long forgotten.
It was the same for us when the kids were little / 75% or more of what the Wife made went to Childcare... but if Mommy ain’t Happy, ain’t nobody Happy (now that she is the EX I can confess that even if it were 110% I would have said...”Yes Dear”)
TT