Just to show there is a wide bit of variety, I knew a whiffy gay man in his 60’s. He was an accountant in the defense company where I worked and he was open and obvious. He had a younger live-in mate in a one bedroom house. During the fall of Viet Nam in the mid-seventies he was an employee at the US embassy. A Vietnamese officer begged him to take his young son to safety in the US. He did and raised the boy as his own. During the time the boy lived with him he was so discrete the boy had no idea what was going on. He sent the boy to college and the boy married and moved across the country to California. Then, the old man had a heart attack. The boy flew to his side and stayed in the living room of the old man’s house. The second day he asked where “Luke” was staying. The old man told him “in the bedroom with me.” It was apparently the first the Vietnamese knew about the old man’s habits. I believe the story as he was, despite being a flamer, decent to the bone. But, he came from a time when gays were discrete. Now, they seem to be in-your-face even when it’s totally unnecessary. (Which is MOST of the time.)
We have a friend who believes that marriage is for procreation and therefore is totally not interested in “marrying” his partner. They are both in their 60s so I’m guessing not a lot going on anyway. Certainly not looking to adopt.