Amazing the lengths you will go to to justify liberalism. Your whole post ignores the 10th Amendment.
In the Elian Gonzalez case, the federal government and federal courts were involved in a matter involving federal immigration law. Did state authorities really have a 10th Amendment right to intervene in a case that looks to involve powers and responsibilities delegated to the federal government.
I'm not saying Bush made the right decision in these cases. I'm just saying that it's easy to attack him for not escalating the crises when you don't actually have to make decisions like that. It's easy to say "no compromises" if you're never in the position of having to make the decisions and live with the consequences.