Mom Regrets Not Aborting Son With Down Syndrome: I Would’ve Killed Him if I Could

Life News ^ | 10/23/14 | Steven Ertelt

[trisham]

I hear you, friend.

[Norm Lenhart]

I just have a real problem with the whole mindset. It is Margaret Sanger in nicer clothes. First this, then euthanasia...

We made it for a few thousand years of civilization without simply killing our kids or disabled. Sure it happened. In china. In Nazi Germany. In the Roman empire. History looked well on that!

It’s just frustrating as hell to see this acceptance here.

[CatherineofAragon]

Cherry, I’m sorry for your son’s disability.

My husband’s aunt is mentally retarded (yes, the old term); she was normal in the womb, but suffered brain damage during delivery. I know for a fact that raising her wasn’t easy; her mother—my husband’s grandmother—and my mother-in-law have talked about it. But there are also lots of fun stories about her.

Even with all the trials involved in her care, I can guarantee you that no one ever wished her dead.

[CatherineofAragon]

BykrBayb, I’m sorry. God bless you both.

[trisham]

It’s frustrating and shocking. I never expect it, and it’s one of the reasons that wagglebee’s threads are so important.

[Norm Lenhart]

Indeed. Every single person here should look at their spouse and or kids right now and ask themselves if a car wreck put them in a ‘retarded’ or massively disabled state, how long would it be before they decided it was simply too much trouble.

Then try excusing this woman’s comments. Could they? Would they?

[trisham]

Exactly right.

[CatherineofAragon]

Norm, I’m sorry, friend.

[Politicalkiddo]

She should’ve been locked up before she had the chance to reproduce. She is obviously a Sociopath.

[Norm Lenhart]

Thanks, and I appreciate it. Life happens. I’m far from alone in experiencing that kind of thing. I wouldn’t have mentioned it at all but I could see where this thread was headed. And from who.

[LMAO]

My wife and I have three boys and our 18 year old has autism. He will live with us for the rest of his life. People who don't have a disabled child have no clue how much it changes your life and the adjustments you have to make and the plans for the future. However, Tommy LOVES going on vacations and we are lucky in that sense. He would never act up on a plane because he's extremely rule oriented. He knows not to act out in public. So, my wife and I aren't confined to the house. We thank God for that. I cannot imagine my life without him. He's our son and we have an obligation to him.

Having said all that, I do have trouble with a mother who says everyday she wishes she aborted her disabled son

[wagglebee]

Seventy five years ago the Nazis decided to kill off the Lebensunwertes Leben (which means "Life Unworthy of Life"), they were deemed an unnecessary expense to society. It started with forced sterilization and then moved onto euthanasia. The Nazis didn't have the ability to determine disability through prenatal testing that we do today, but abortion was allowed in cases of disability (aborting the healthy baby of an "Aryan" woman was a capital offense).

Today prenatal testing is pushed for every pregnancy and women are encouraged to have an abortion if there is any sign of abnormality. People in both major parties bemoan how such children will place a greater financial burden on society. And there is an ever-increasing push for euthanasia, it's now portrayed as the only "dignified" way to die.

So I wonder, just how different are we from Nazi Germany?

[Norm Lenhart]

Ping:

Hey KC, you still have the links to those videos on Nazis and the mentally ‘unfit’?

People should watch them completely.

[trisham]

It’s an important question.

[wagglebee]

I've seen a lot of the videos.

[Norm Lenhart]

Amazing isn’t it? And we are closely following them. It’s a mirror image. We just put nicer words as to what we’re doing and how we do it than they did.

[Norm Lenhart]

Oh on the ‘dignified’ thing.

Hollywood long promoted the ‘noble’ death of the jilted lover swallowing a hand full of pills, climbing into silk sheets and dying ‘peacefully’ and ‘on their terms’. Lots of movies had that plotline.

They never did show the resulting puke and loss of bowel control on those dignified white sheets though...

Same thing for the two gays on Pacific Coast Highway in the convertable doing a car commercial. Never show Bill and steve in the aids ward later.

[Mrs. Don-o]

Well, if she's "being honest", she's being honest about the depth to which her soul has sunk. She says she wishes she had murdered him when he was small. "Every day." Every day!

People do grow weary, of course. There can be such a thing as "compassion fatigue." But ordinary people can grow to greater and greater compassion when they respond to the everyday stimulus of need. She has --- if her words are indeed honest --- shrunk and shrunk to greater and greater resentment.

I hope she's just in a temporary bad patch, and she'll come out of it eventually. That's a possibility. Maybe she isn't getting the respite she's been needing. That can be very tough.

But if it truly has been chronic, that abiding homicidal ideation on her part is the result of her own daily resentful response. I do feel sorry for her, but I feel sorrier for her son, still living with his mother's radical I-wish-you-were-dead rejection after 47 years.

[KC_Lion]

I do still have those vid's, however they are on Youtube and I can't access youtube at work.

I can post some this evening :)

[Chickensoup]

how can you call her selfish?....she didn’t ditch her son....he’s not in an institution...he wasn’t left on the side of the road...he wasn’t aborted...he wasn’t battered to death....

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