I wonder how many families have a homo who came out to them and threatened them with the ultimatum: “accept me and my perversion, or else!”
That’s how it happened with my in-laws. Their son came home from college and told his parents that the guy he’d claimed for the longest time was his “friend” was really his “partner.” His parents, previously pretty solid conservatives, folded like deck chairs on the issue.
So while these pervs are less than 2% of the population, they’re flipping their family members and friends into accepting this sin. People are errantly buying into the myth that you have to accept the sin.
A whole lot of people don’t understand what real compassion is: a tightrope walk.
I have friends to whom something similar happened. They are still very solid conservatives, but heartsick ones. They had no choice but to accept their child’s circumstances or lose all contact with that child. They do not condone the child’s choice and have said so. But they love their offspring. They pray constantly for them to see their error. One parent believes it is *a phase*.
My only personal experience that comes close to this is marrying outside my birth religion 50 years ago. My parents threatened me with being disowned. I had to choose and I chose my husband. My parents relented. Had they not, all it would have accomplished would have been one more family dysfunction among many.
Sanctions work both ways. Familial splits over these sorts of lifestyle choices serve the enemy just as well as the original error.
I have no answers, but what do you expect the parents to do? Break off all contact with their child forever while the child continues on alone in their error? I don’t think there are any easy answers when one is caught in the midst of this sort of situation. And there are no answers at all from outside the situation. It then becomes a case of “Easy for you to say.”