I’m now in my second marriage. I lived with and had sex with my first wife before we were married (continuing the auto metaphor, she was a Yugo :-))and we had a horrible marriage that lasted only seven years. I lived with and had sex with my second wife before we were married (a Porsche) and we have been very happily married for eleven years. I’m not sure what that means other than that for me when the sex was lousy the marriage was lousy and when the sex was good the marriage was good.
Maybe the thinqs that make her fun to be with in the kitchen are the same thinqs that make her fun to be with in bed.
If so, those thinqs can carry you throuqh even if somethinq happens to make the physical part of the relationship not so easy. I hope you both stay healthy and happy.
I think it’s very possible to tell what kind of marriaqe it may be just from the clues in the kitchen. =)