You know this from the stories she told you? All the single guys in her church were creeps and didn’t want to wait?(or was it a few guys with the stories embellished over and over thru the years) Hmmmm....
She would have been 18 years old if her husband had been gone for 25 years if she is 43. I can applaud not wanting to have sex outside of marriage but there is more to the story then just a succession of “Christian” men lining up to fornicate with her outside of marriage and her disappointment with such “gentlemen”.
If the situation was reversed, and a wife of mine just upped and betrayed me like she was...I might be gunshy with any relationships. Because of what Christ said about divorce, it might be a situation where I feel that I could never have another relationship again.
Shame on any guy that feels they can “try out the goods” in lieu of marriage and I suppose a gentleman truly in love could wait a full year to ask for her hand if he hasn’t noted a pattern of and thus becoming frustrated with an increasing list of expectations, demands, subtle cross examinations, and constant pressures to prove their saintly white knight hood!! God is fully capable of sending a gentleman who will be a “Jacob” and would be willing to labor up to 7 years for her love. Most times 6 months from first dates to serious consideration of engagement is enough for most guys to know
if they even want to spend the rest of their lives with a woman, even one whose child is now 25 years old and grown now. As the child was growing, that also had to be a consideration for men who were courting this woman, right? Instant fatherhood is a tall order for men who may never have been father before...especially a child whose relationship with his or her real father may be quite troubled.
So there is more to the story than just all these scummy “Baptist men” who were just after sex? Right?
Number one: I really wish all of your machinations were correct. I don’t like to be this cynical, but it’s as simple as it could be.
Number two: I was asked a question and I answered it. I didn’t even think that it was a slight against the denomination because the tendency isn’t rare.
Number three:
And why does this story baffle you so?
I’m assuming that everyone at *your* church honors the sanctimony of marriage 100%. Always have. There are NO eight pound ‘premature’ babies among your congregation.
(I’ve been around for awhile and I’ve seen my share of big pregnant women walking down the aisle in white, so don’t tell me that this is anything new.)
And Number four:
Based on your attitude, I’m assuming that YOU were as pure as the driven snow on your own wedding day and cannot even imagine another way to be.
Congrats. You win the Morality contest.