Posted on 09/29/2014 9:50:01 AM PDT by wagglebee
Quietly this is changing. I have primary custody of my kids. I know a few other fathers that do as well. I kept the house and dog too.
What word was she supposed to use: "You"?
Please clarify to facilitate rational discussion; To which proposition(s) do you find disagreement?
Cali-pornia or Marxistchusetts would be my guess. I wouldn’t even be surprised is the judge were Vaugh Walker or a clone.
Whoever you are, you need to rethink what you just said.
I wouldn’t be surprised to learn that he transferred the family to an area that had a gay judge before filing for divorce.
This is not a new phenomenon unfortunately. I have seen many instances of a female leaving a man to live with a lesbian lover and take the kids and get all the benefits of generous alimony.
I do know that, and thanks for bringing it up because that is in fact my larger point.
The preference and orientation schema is, I think, largely bogus. We are a heterosexual species, tout court.
There are, of course, shifting vagaries of desire. A man may fancy his wife, or he may think he really fancies his stepdaughters. Both of them. He may think he'd rather re-connect with his old choom gang buddy. He may like the gal on the video screen a whole lot more than the woman he married. He may be thrlled with a guy at the gym whoi looks like Michelangelo's David and quite tepid toward the mother of his three children.
It doesn't matter.
He may be satisfied in the role of decent husband for 10 years, but be convinced that he'd be a lot MORE satisfied as the faithful "husband" of another man for two months, then satisfied tomcatting around with Queer and Questioning boys with long silky hair for a couple of years, then get a slew of but-stills and what-ifs and want what he used to have with his wife again.
It doesn't matter.
What matters is that in marriage, in giving himself to one wife, he gave himself to one future --- a future with her --- and forsook all other potential futures. What's what the marriage vow means.
He could have been her faithful husband, as he promised. He decided to hell with the promise.
The problem is not that he's "gay." The problem is not that she married a "gay." What is "gay," anyway? She married a man, pure and simple.
The problem is that he is a selfish liar and a cheat. He wronged the woman he gave his life to, got out of his sacred covenant a lot easier than a person could get out of a military service contract or a 20-year mortgage, and his friend Alter Kaker is saying "That's all right, it's her fault for marrying you."
One more good reason that homosexuality should have stayed illegal. The repercussions will multiply exponentially in the near future.
Well said, Mrs. D.
“...He simply divorced her. ...”
Simple huh? You can bet he was ‘experimenting’ with boys and men before he decided to leave her.
“If I had not been female, and said I was giving the same advice I’d give to any other woman in any other situation with a cheating husband, I probably would have lost my job.”
Sounds like you need to find another place to work... ASAP.
“What matters is that in marriage, in giving himself to one wife, he gave himself to one future -— a future with her -— and forsook all other potential futures. What’s what the marriage vow means.”
If one relies on the state to define the institution for them as merely a civil contract that can be broken and resumed between any parties the state allows, then it is pretty much the exact opposite of what the marriage vow means.
Freegards
“LGBT is surrounding and tempting all of us.”
Speak for yourself, Junior...
Hey, all. The ex-husband has replied in rebuttal to this article in the comments section on Moonbattery.com, where Janna’s piece was also published. He comes across as as arrogant, self-centered and sneeringly contemptuous of anything good and honorable as you could expect.
He goes by the screen name LeifA if your searching the comments.
http://moonbattery.com/?p=50610#comment-1611323524
HOMOSEXUAL, because there's nothing GAY about it.
You could be right - I have no idea. But if I were her, I'd prefer him to do as much of his experimenting as possible while not married to me. Fortunately, he divorced her.
Your post is truly offensive. She didn’t know that he was gay. Shame, shame on you. She and her children are suffering, and you think you are clever by spitting out a snappy one liner.
I never knew Jim Nabors was gay, or Rock Hudson, or Matt Bomer, until I read about it, some homosexuals don’t act homosexual.
This also happened to a relative, she was married many years, then all of a sudden, out of the blue, her husband tells her he’s a homosexual and he divorces her...
Ed
She did, and she didn't get HIV but she did get some other sort of STD from him (I forget the name).
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