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Morning AB, All....

Thank you AB for (almost) always reliably doing this thread.

Last week I was absent, NOT, ahem, because the thread came up late and I had to go sing....but because I took my granddaughter to the church picnic.

I had a wonderful time though things are still rocky here with the Munchausen syndrome still raging and being denied.

Anyway, got back too late to effectively participate but since my factitious daughter hasn’t spoken to me in three days now I have lots of time in my misery.

But don’t cry for me....am going to sing in the choir again this morn so will join y’all later.

Got my granddaughter and that’s all I care about right now.

My daughter tells me I might “love” her but I do not “like” her.

Well no.....people with Muncheussen do not have many friends. Their joy and happiness is having medical people look at them with sympathy and give lots of attention. Daughter has so few friends that even the child authorities are telling her to go make some friends, get a “support system”.

So how does one tell their only child that....well, no....you don’t especially like them?

How am I supposed to like anyone who constantly torments those who love them by threatening them by endless suicide threats? How am I supposed to like someone who, ALLEGEDLY, almost died this past August in a same suicide attempt, thereby leaving their precious ten year old child to live every second, every minute, every hour of her life wondering what she did to have her mother kill herself like that, to leave her all alone without a mother for the rest of her life?

No, I don’t LIKE her.

BTW, she did NOT almost die....she never almost dies. She just puts on a big show to get into the loony bin, which she loves./...42 days out of 60 this past summer, off and on. Sometimes in Delaware, sometimes in her favorite mental pool and spa up in Merryland.

Muncheussen people love to bounce around to hospitals....their nickname is called “hospital hopper”.

Anyway, she denies it but says she will make no more suicide threats (the child people told her she loses daughter she keeps it up) and will NOT go into the hospital again “of my own choosing”....heh. She’s got ways to make this happen NOT of her choosing.

Did you know there is NO book written on Muncheussen syndrome? Well there’s my fiction book some of you might know about.

I think it’s time to write a book about it....a life tossed away, enablers, a perfect storm that has a society that feels sorry for everyone, including beheading jihadists and a bulky health system easy for someone with some brains to fool.

So right now she’s not talking to me because she told me I don’t like her and here’s my problem....

.....I don’t.

I am going to chuch this morning and turning it all over to my Lord and Savior.

This is beyond my ability to deal with.

But I am here today and will be adding my thoughts to the crowd.

You have my sympathy/empathy/compassion in what you are dealing with , with your daughter. It is possbile to have two competing feelings at the same time, ie, love and anger.

Try to remember that when you are talking to your daughter when she is at her worst, you are really talking to the “illness.” Very similar to trying to communicate with a drunk,talking to the alcohol, not the person. Trust me, the professionals do know what is going on. However, they have to take your daughter’s episodes seriously ...eventually she will run out of enablers and hopefully begin to heal.

You are doing the very best you can and doing a great job!
Thank God your granddaughter has you.