I think a lot of LEOs have a “thing” about being an authority figure. Their personality tends to make them want to order people around, and they do NOT like to be defied. It really outrages them, for their decisions, orders, policies to be defied.
How can that not extend to how they treat their wives and children?
Agreed.
Not to mention that they, as a rule, have lower IQs than the general public and abuse steroids more often than the general public.
Bad combination.