I remember watching some documentary segment ages ago. Maybe early ‘90s, maybe 60 Minutes. Something like that.
The issue was “child discipline” and the finding were that MODERATE punishment and reward were best. They watched people who did the NEW-FANGLED (emphasis since somehow we survived for eons without wishy-washy stuff) “time-out” kind of pure positive reinforcement (typical white people today), and those who beat the kids for every dumb thing (typical black ghetto stuff).
From this study both ends of the spectrum turned out pretty dismally. Continuing their bad behavior and everything.
Kids who were treated fairly and nicely but seriously and firmly did best, using all kinds of punishment and reward but never heavily.
Sorry, I do not remember any specifics. Just it made perfect sense to me.
Your post makes perfect sense to me. Thank Rebel