I spanked my kids and they knew why they were getting a licking too. Had nothing to do with parental failure, but it sure did on self-control I controlled the paddle...
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Just reminded me.... The Vice Principal at my high school had a paddle about 3 feet long. It was a 1x4 made from hardwood and had numerous holes in the blade.
I experienced that paddle several times during my 3 years there. He would just make you remove your wallet, lean over a couple of feet from a filing cabinet and place your hands on the cabinet. The swats on the butt would raise welts where the holes were. He would then sit and talk about responsibility, discipline, the future, etc., for a few minutes and provide encouragement for improvement.
He had been a Navy Commander on a destroyer during WWII, and that man did a lot to teach me to respect him and rules. He later was moved to Principal at a new high school.
In today’s nanny state, with all their PC rules, that fine man would probably be fired and jailed for actually helping many of us rowdy teens to become successful citizens.
I think most laugh and chat about the paddlings they got today.....though painful at the moment ...they did accomplish the end result.
Look here where we’re all laughing and sharing about what was used for punishment...belts, paddles, or a good blistering with a firm hand.
I never thought I was abused... my kids haven’t either...and i doubt ever there’s nothing better for a kid out of control then a firm and loving hand....which includes a licking from time to time when warrented.