Re: “Yes, they were. The church couldn’t honor God and acknowledge a “husband”. They did the right thing.”
That’s my question - were the parents asking the pastor to acknowledge the “husband”? That is not all that clear from the information given.
I’ve only been to funerals in funeral homes, but wouldn’t they expect those close to him to speak? If so, then they had to expect the church’s response. I’ve got zero sympathy for those mourners.