Probably re-training is a good idea. So is marriage counseling. Some officers really expect instant obedience when they speak, at least when they give a “command”. That just doesn’t work in the give and take that is ordinary life.
If you are going to interact with the public, and you are carrying, it is wiser to go with the flow until in the very very rare case that you cannot. If you use your weapon it better be in defense of family, or a friend with whom you have a very strong relationship, or your own life. An employer, employee relationship is also strong legally. But a concealed carrier better think twice before intervening between strangers in a situation he or she may not understand.
A story told to me at my concealed carry class is this: A man was beside the road changing his tire. A woman, who was a known crack addict came up behind him while he was kneeling in front of the tire. She stabbed him twice in the back. The man turned around and started defending himself with the tire iron, beating the woman who stabbed him. A concealed carry permit holder driving by saw a man beating a woman with a tire iron. He jumped out of his car and shot the man dead. Then went to prison for manslaughter.
So don’t jump into things you don’t understand. Don’t get involved unless you have a relationship with a victim. Don’t start unnecessary conflict with anyone. De-escalate any situation and/or walk away. Don’t get into fist fights, don’t yell. Walk away. Until you cannot.
This cop was itching for a fight. He escalated a situation involving a stranger until it got physical. Then he shot the man. Only an idiot could defend this. Idiots and ex cops. If the man doing the shooting had been a young black man with a gold grill, everyone of these guys would be demanding they string up the “feral human”. Sad.
Bingo and I agree to everything you said. Even the marriage counseling part. There have been a number of news stories lately of cops shooting their families and then themselves.