I think the confusion on women in combat comes from the fact that, under low stress conditions women are flat out better at multi tasking. However women are, without a doubt, much weaker physically and under pressure they tend to seize up. They cannot muster that berserker rage that screams “F**k it all - if I am going to die I am going to take as many SOBs as I can with me.
I don't see that, around the house they just seem like it, but not in the big areas.
It's terribly sexist, but I think this is true. I've seen it many times. Just as one instance, my wife is a reasonably intelligent woman, but if she is under pressure, her IQ drops to about half it's normal level. "I don't know what to do!" is about all she can manage until the crisis is over.
Not all of us are like that though many are. If all goes to hell, everything drops. I don't like torture or seeing it done to anyone. I do understand what you mean though; many people would freeze up, whack out and or to panic. It's a tough job for all of them as it is now. I never wanted to see women in combat but now it's there and I see no one changing it for now.
Multitasking was a word invented to cover up the inability to focus, something a lot of women suffer from.