> Instead of therapy they should have tried parenting.
There are some mental and emotional pathologies for which “parenting” does not work.
In the olden days, such people were confined to sanitoriums.
Today they are medicated. Medication works as long as they are faithful to take it. However, experience has also shown me that, for some reason, many folks who need medication to cope with their mental illness are not faithful to the prescribed regimen.
I agree with you on the TRUE pathologies that require treatment and therapy. With that said, many societal ills in our culture are due to lack of parenting and the breakdown of family values, also the chemical solution we so heartily embrace in the U.S.
WE cannot transfer our responsibilities for raising our children to psychiatrists and chemists. I am generalizing without evidence to the contrary, but a troubled kid, who’s been in therapy for years is allowed to stop therapy by his choice?
OK then tell me how this young man was getting along. Let’s see, had a BMW, was living in Santa Barbara, had money for guns, internet access and presumably the luxuries of modern life, how? Was he an actor, lawyer, brain surgeon, or was he subsidized by mom and dad.
Occam’s razor, coldly I will say without real evidence, his parents probably were supporting him and as long as he was out of sight out of mind, all is good Great guidance there. OK flame away
The medication has side effects. And sometimes, they prefer the "good" parts of the condition the medication suppresses.
Long ago, I had a friend that was bipolar. Once she was diagnosed, they put her on a strong dosage, and then backed it off to smaller dosages until the symptoms reappear. This adjustment period can be really difficult.
She also admitted that she missed the "high" points of her mood swings.
“Medication works as long as they are faithful to take it.”
My ex’s thyroid went hyper on her. She had meds to take. But when she missed/skipped a dose, she got VERY energetic, and she liked that. So she’d keep skipping her meds. After she’d been awake for a few days, I was afraid to stay in the same house with her!
exactly. Once a disturbed person reaches the age of 18, there’s not much a parent CAN do. I know some folks who are going through this horror currently. Their son has been in and out of rehab/mental facilities for years. They only keep him long enough to get him back on the meds he stops taking after a few weeks/months. It’s a vicious cycle and parents hands are tied. There IS no magic fairy dust to cure mentally ill patients and pretty much no facilities will keep them unless they become violet. Then it’s often too late as in this case.