Sorry, but giving up on your right to object what they do in private is the reason why you have no standing now to object to what they do in public.
I see this phrase a lot...”privacy of their own bedroom”. As you alluded, it doesn’t stay in the bedroom. Widespread acceptance of this behavior is destroying the most stable, productive, revenue enhancing, security promoting, government reducing, security protecting force in our country or any country...I am speaking of the traditional family.