[PapaBear3625]

yeah I was a hostess at a swanky restaurant and a waiter who happened to be black asked me for a date and when I said no, he said “you don’t like me because I am black?” Why would this person ask me on a date? I had no clue even what his whole name was, we had never talked, I had no insight into who he was,

Why would he use that line? Most likely, because it WORKED for him often enough to be a viable tactic. There are some number of liberal women who don't want to be cast as "racist", so they say yes even if they would rather not.

OK, it didn't work on you, so he just moves on and asks another woman. Eventually, he gets a date.

[CatherineofAragon]

"Why would he use that line? Most likely, because it WORKED for him often enough to be a viable tactic. There are some number of liberal women who don't want to be cast as "racist", so they say yes even if they would rather not."

Exactly right. But if the woman stands her ground, looks him in the eye, and gives him a response he doesn't like, he'll know he doesn't have someone he can intimidate. In my case, I got cursed, but the guy walked away.