I don’t recall Catholics hiding their beliefs and evading them for hours and days and years on end.
If you ask a Catholic if he accepts equality in the military for homosexuals, he would probably answer.
The answer should be the same as mine which is that you aren't to discriminate against them. If they don't give the answer of "equality under the law" then they need to go back to re-read their Catechism once again.
Herein is the problem and it is multifaceted.
First off, as human beings, even homosexuals have rights and the right to be treated equally under the law.
Secondly, if they are to be treated equally under the law, that means you don't get to treat them as second-class citizens.
That doesn't mean, however, you get to legitimize the homosexual act. That is precisely why I have asked you before, "What does sexuality have to do with the Military? It is not a social club."
Think of it as an expression of the Golden Rule. If you want to be treated as an "equal under the law" then you have to treat others the same way.
You do not have to legitimize their sin. You do not have to acknowledge their sin as being proper. You do not have to accord them any sort of special status. But you do have to treat them as human beings.
Otherwise, you run into the problem where the Golden Rule works in reverse. "As you do unto others, so shall they do unto you."
That sort of society where people are constantly at each others' throats and designating each other as second-class citizens depending on who is in charge at the time is not one that I would want to live in nor is it one that I want anyone else to have to live in.