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Six Reasons Why Men Are Opting Out Of Marriage
Real Clear Politics ^ | July 9, 2013 | Dr. Helen Smith

Posted on 07/09/2013 10:25:31 AM PDT by NotYourAverageDhimmi

Dr. Helen Smith: American society has become anti-male. Men are sensing the backlash and are consciously and unconsciously going "on strike." They are dropping out of college, leaving the workforce and avoiding marriage and fatherhood at alarming rates. The trend is so pronounced that a number of books have been written about this "man-child" phenomenon, concluding that men have taken a vacation from responsibility simply because they can. But why should men participate in a system that seems to be increasingly stacked against them?

As Men on Strike demonstrates, men aren't dropping out because they are stuck in arrested development. They are instead acting rationally in response to the lack of incentives society offers them to be responsible fathers, husbands and providers. In addition, men are going on strike, either consciously or unconsciously, because they do not want to be injured by the myriad of laws, attitudes and hostility against them for the crime of happening to be male in the twenty-first century. Men are starting to fight back against the backlash. Men on Strike explains their battle cry.

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KEYWORDS: culturewar; feminism; savethemales; wageslaves
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To: Ouderkirk

“The world today teaches males at a young age that women have “options”, men have obligations.”

bingo - how very true


101 posted on 07/09/2013 11:39:16 AM PDT by Wuli (qu)
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To: NotYourAverageDhimmi; a fool in paradise

Starting with Eve and the apple, on to Lucretia Borgia, Mata Hari, Pat Benatar and Hillary, women are just B.A.D.!


102 posted on 07/09/2013 11:39:19 AM PDT by Revolting cat! (Bad things are wrong! Ice cream is delicious!)
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To: bgill

So sick, yet so true.


103 posted on 07/09/2013 11:39:40 AM PDT by Cowgirl
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To: llevrok; DwFry

No I still have the VW, she left those keys, and she can’t drive it anyway (too many quirks). Got to get the ignition reprogrammmed on the Titan, though. Last thing to do. Windows pinned, locks changed, gate kept locked, alarm passcode changed.

Meth is what I’m thinking. But I can’t prove anything, and I don’t have the $$$$ to hire a P.I. to get the dirt on the scum. She lost around 10 pounds in 2 1/2 weeks.

He did have a former girlfriend die of an overdose, according to what I’ve heard.

And damned if I didn’t back into something and bash in the rear fender on the bug.


104 posted on 07/09/2013 11:41:19 AM PDT by fredhead (Join the Navy and see the world.....77% of which is covered in water.)
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To: Perdogg

Bump fer later . . . . this should get good !


105 posted on 07/09/2013 11:42:40 AM PDT by snooter55 (People may doubt what you say, but they will always believe what you do)
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To: Will88
Except the White Face or Hereford is a beef cattle breed.
He'll get a lot less milk from that one.
Should have picked a Holstein, Jersey or Guernsey.

Stick in the mud !!!


106 posted on 07/09/2013 11:43:15 AM PDT by Iron Munro (The past is a foreign country; they do things differently there.)
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To: CodeToad

Uh uh. You’re not allowed to say that....


107 posted on 07/09/2013 11:44:24 AM PDT by JCBreckenridge ("we are pilgrims in an unholy land")
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To: NotYourAverageDhimmi

This is interesting. With the latest foul ruling on marraige with the Supreme Court striking down DOMA, marraige has once again been cheapened until it makes no sense to get married to many men.


108 posted on 07/09/2013 11:45:40 AM PDT by KC_Conspirator
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To: null and void

I was rather amused by the “we have to defend marriage!” hullabaloo recently. I was kind of left with the question of defend it from what? Half of the marriages end up grist for the divorce industry. I kind of see it as the homosexuals have no right to be protected from the kind of legal, financial and emotional screwing I got and millions of others get every year. They want what passes for marriage these days...? Let them have it. It’s not like it would be doing them any favors.


109 posted on 07/09/2013 11:46:41 AM PDT by Orangedog (An optimist is someone who tells you to 'cheer up' when things are going his way)
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To: NotYourAverageDhimmi

..because it’s difficult for heterosexual men to live with a female who is hellbent on assuming his role? I maintain the continued popularity of the ‘I Love Lucy’ show is due to our innate desire to see males and females acting DIFFERENTLY, not identically. It is NOT natural for females to assume the role of men. Females have spat in the face of God by abandoning their children for their careers and our society is paying dearly for it. Nothing good comes from this. The divorce rate has skyrocketed as a result. Boys have become feminized as a result and femininity in females is DEAD causing chivalry to become extinct. A chain reaction of chaos for bucking God’s plan for mankind. /Spit!


110 posted on 07/09/2013 11:48:15 AM PDT by Obama_Is_Sabotaging_America (If Americans were as concerned for their country as Egyptians are, Obama would be ousted!)
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To: TigerClaws
Try dating women from other countries. Much better experience.

The following is from the great Fred Reed...

www.Fred on Everything; Marrying Abroad.com

This is Chapter Three of How to Marry a Third-World Woman and Live Happily Ever After, Somewhere Else. While it contains many generalizations, generalizations are generally true, which is why they are generalizations.

What are Third-World women like? {snip}

A few tendencies that you will encounter, with exceptions and in different degrees:

First, as noted, the women don’t hate men. This is not always easy to understand, since men in most of their countries treat them far worse than we treat American women. It is a paradox that North American women are the most spoiled and privileged, yet are the most complaining, self-pitying tarantulas on this weary planet.

Mexican men are famous for beating their wives like drums, cheating on them without even having the decency to keep it secret, and staying drunk no more than all of the time. Thai men are worse, and Moslem men a residue of the Cretaceous. This makes American men attractive, since we don’t much do those things.

Second, they believe in sexual dimorphism—that is, that men are intended to be men, that women are intended to be women, and that it’s all a good idea. This has both philosophical and practical consequences.

Philosophically it means that they do not feel a need to prove themselves to be your equal. It isn’t that they regard themselves as inferior. They don’t. They are perfectly capable of regarding themselves as your superior as an individual—as being smarter if they are, more responsible, more capable, what have you. But they seem to think, without really thinking about it, that asking whether men are superior to women is like asking whether an outboard motor is superior to a Labrador retriever.

You will quickly notice four splendid things about third-world women. They don’t whine, they don’t read self-help books, they aren’t in “therapy,” and they don’t take Prozac. See you in Beijing.

Third, they cook and clean. Let’s be honest here: As men, we think this is wonderful. There are things men do—carry heavy objects, plow fields, shoot burglars, change the oil, make money—and things men don’t do—cook and clean, change diapers, and deal with small children. Women of the Third World understand this and in fact see nothing wrong with it. And since (we will come to this later) you will in all likelihood be footing the bills, she will see you as keeping your part of the marital bargain. If she is, say, an ophthalmologist, you will hire a maid.

My wife naturally wakes up before I do. Bwing up anyway, she brings me a cup of coffee when I begin to bubble up toward consciousness, and then goes to the tiendita next door for fresh-squeezed orange juice. She doesn’t think it’s oppression. She thinks it’s orange juice.

Fourth, depending on the country and the woman, they can be (but aren’t necessarily) insanely and even dangerously jealous. In Thailand, friends tell me, a cheating husband can awake as his primary sexual part go out the door in his wife’s hand, to be tied to a helium balloon and released skyward. Whether this is true, I don’t know. Let somebody else find out and tell you.

Fifth, they are sometimes seriously religious, whether Catholic in Latin America or Buddhist in Southeast Asia. This is not a bad thing, provided you are not one of those tiresome atheists, who seem to be the only kind of atheists.

Neither Catholic nor Buddhist women have even the slightest sexual hang-up that I have ever encountered or had reported to me by friends. Mexican women in particular are enthusiastic in bed. The Church is not a problem.

Depending on your conceptions of morality, you might possibly run into difficulties if your Latin lady finds herself unexpectedly with child, as she might refuse to kill it. On the other hand, they are wonderful mothers. On the third hand, abortionists exist quietly in Mexico at any rate, usually doctors, and among the educated they are not infrequently used.

Sixth, and real important though hard to describe, third-world women take a philosophic, relaxed, and more mature approach to life than do Americans of either sex. They know that life is temporary and tend to accept it. One lives, one behaves as well as one can, and one dies. The years come and go, and so do we. We all know this as a matter of biology, but other cultures are far more comfortable with it.

The women (except the rich, who are very Americanized everywhere) are content just to live. They want reasonable comfort, security, enough to eat, and a good husband. That is pretty much the end of the list. They seldom have much, or any, interest in jewelry or clothes from Italian homosexuals.

And they are not driven, ambitious, or materially competitive. They are just content. This may be why their countries are undeveloped, but this is not a book on economics. They are not trying to fill the great aching emptiness that darkly thickly over unreligious materialistic societies of the US variety. You live, you die, you go back to God. Whether this is delusional can be argued, but if you believe it, you are a lot calmer and much better company.

Seventh, and we will have more to say about this, they are, to put it mildly, family-oriented. Most will have mothers, fathers, sisters. You too will have them. This means that your lady may not be real portable. Be prepared to deal with it. I know many men who have taken wives out of their native countries, but these have tended to be the well-educated, professional sorts of wives. Many simply won’t go if they have aging parents who need care. They may, again depending on the particular woman, want you to help support their families in various ways. If you have chosen unwisely, this may be gold-digging. Or it may be that in countries with poor social safety nets, people take care of their families.

Nuff said.

111 posted on 07/09/2013 11:48:18 AM PDT by NotYourAverageDhimmi
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To: Ouderkirk
The world today teaches males at a young age that women have “options”, men have obligations.

I think thats a very good point. Men have to learn that they have options as well.

112 posted on 07/09/2013 11:49:00 AM PDT by KC_Conspirator
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To: NotYourAverageDhimmi

Once again, the media has hyped the scriptwriters’ ideas of how a male should be in The New Millenium.

However, ‘in the last one’, I married two real ‘beauts’. The first threatend the base commander with his life, while we were living in base housing. I was given the opportunity, as it were, to start a new career in San Bernardino. I divorced her, at a later date. After some time and travel, I married another beaut. Down the road, all if fine, and the doctor told me I had colorectal cancer. Her response: “ya had to goes out somehweres tah git it!” My Oncologist, after meeting with this woman, gave me a very short, small, direct piece of doctoral advice: “If you wish to survive, after the operation, DUMP HER!” Well, my Oncologist knew better in this sort of thing, than I did, so I followed doctor’s orders! At the time, it was one of those states that has a general bail-out clause: “irreconcileable differences”.

Now? In ‘01, I met a young lady, that has now become ‘my dearest friend’. She has her house, and I have my little abode. We get together and do things, and then, we each go to our home.


113 posted on 07/09/2013 11:49:00 AM PDT by Terry L Smith
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To: fredhead

If her teeth go brown and then fall out (as I suspect her new BF’s are already, there’s ur sign of meth.

Hang in their Fred! It’s a pisser she left, but may have done you a favor in the long run.


114 posted on 07/09/2013 11:49:24 AM PDT by llevrok (We are in a new Cold War. At home.)
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To: null and void

And the reality is the each code 1/3 or less of your potential. I haven’t met one H1-B yet that is can code or design for squat.


115 posted on 07/09/2013 11:50:00 AM PDT by Resolute Conservative
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To: fredhead

Get a big damn dog that bites.


116 posted on 07/09/2013 11:51:23 AM PDT by Resolute Conservative
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To: ScottinVA

Had a very dear friend, who said, and quite clearly to me, that we needed more ‘gay’ folks.

No - no we don’t. I didn’t have the heart to explain to her that your picture is exactly why.

We need to spend more time being thankful for all the solid folks we do have rather than obsessing over the tiny little stuff that we don’t.


117 posted on 07/09/2013 11:51:35 AM PDT by JCBreckenridge ("we are pilgrims in an unholy land")
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To: forgotten man
My girlfriend is Filipina, and she prefers American men to Filipino men. She says Filipino men have adapted the Spanish machismo and expect to be constantly served by their women. When married, they have no qualms about taking mistresses, which is very common.
BR> My GF is not a feminist, but demands - and gives - respect. She says American men are much more likely to treat women as equals.
118 posted on 07/09/2013 11:51:50 AM PDT by Steve_Seattle
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To: Iron Munro
Stick in the mud !!!

Nope, just someone who knows which cow to pick if he's looking milk.

119 posted on 07/09/2013 11:53:34 AM PDT by Will88
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To: Revolting cat!

:Pat Benatar”

Talk to her ex roadies sometime...you’ll hear all the bad you’ll ever want to know ;)


120 posted on 07/09/2013 11:56:05 AM PDT by Norm Lenhart
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